People joke about feeling sentimental and loving. We wrack our brains screwing up the courage to admit feelings of love. And we don’t talk about love as a matter of course in polite conversation.
Other topics like sex, war and politics are fair game. Everyone has feelings about these topics. Sometimes strong emotions easily conveyed. But heaven forbid we were to have love as something people talk about in their daily lives. Something you chatted about with the clerk at the grocery store or the guy who fixed your washing machine.
What’s up with that?
It is on everyone’s mind. Everyone wants to feel loved and accepted. It is a common thread through humanity and in our hearts. And yet it is denied to people in their daily lives all too often.
People should not have to seek it. There should be an abundance on offer everyday. After all, love is not love until you give it away. But, I think the crux and pity of it all is that we people mostly do not know how to love. So, we are awkward about the topic.
And, really, we should all easily be experts.
Some might believe that love is just something we utter in a darkened room or in passing at the end of a phone call or email or get together. But it is an emotion that is all-encompassing, enriching and deserving of more than a cursory glance.
Last week, I was getting a coffee drink at a place I go to on a fairly regular basis. I know most of the people who work there. The guy preparing the drinks on this particular day is one of my favorites.
He is just really nice. And really courteous for someone so young. Plus, he seems to care about what he does.
Well, that day I made a comment about how I like the way he prepares the coffee drinks. A lady working there said that he has a secret ingredient.
I said, oh, he makes the coffee drinks with love.
The lady said, no, he IS love.
I thought that was kind of an odd statement to make. But this guy, when you look at him, appears to not have a mean bone in his body. He just seems friendly and kind.
And, when you think about it, that really is love.
I replied that people don’t talk about love much in general conversation. And they both agreed, which made me feel kind of sad.
I have been thinking about this. Love should be THE ultimate easy topic to discuss. It IS the best thing around. And, it might be the only real thing there is out there – and inside.
There is nothing bad about love in its purest form. It is the ultimate in organic and natural.
Maybe like with natural healing remedies – it cannot be patented so there is no money in it. Hmm, maybe love IS the ultimate healing remedy. Maybe if love were a commodity it would be everywhere.
But love is not for sale. Just ask anyone who tries to buy it. Love is free. The one caveat being you gotta give it away to get it.
Nothing else really matters though.
So, why is it so hard for people to discuss? Why do we give so much more attention to the shallow – or ephemeral – aspects of life? Why don’t we focus more on love.
Maybe, for many of us, we never really learn how to love. Or, maybe our innate capacity to love is snuffed out. Maybe the inherent hurt in life destroys our ability to love to a degree.
And maybe we should make it a priority to recapture the feeling of love we have when we come into the world.
Maybe love should be taught in schools? I mean, most of us can say, I never use Algebra in my daily life but we all seek love all the time. What is more vital for our happiness and success in life?
I know a lot of people who can do math either in their heads or on a computer. But I know very few in happy marriages. And then our leaders say that families are the foundation of our society.
Curriculum changes perhaps?
Two Pugs who know how to love.
I think this need for an openness about love is a reason people have pets. Dogs, for instance, will love you unconditionally. All you have to do is be nice to them and they will give you all they have to give.
And that reward is love – warm, caring, affectionate and joyful.
Maybe in this world of gotta have, need to get, we have become too evolved for love. And maybe this is a big part of returning to a simpler way of living.
Learn to love. Make it a priority. It is, after all, the most important thing you will ever do in your life. And that is worth discussing out in the open.